Love and Lust Not The Same Thing

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Love: Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. (John 15:13)

There are people who have literally laid down their lives to save others. They chose to die rather than let the other die.  This is love what love really is. It is giving not from lust, but from love. Only love gives.

Lust takes from the other to gratify itself. I remember the Amish girl who asked to be killed first when it became clear the man who took them hostage intended to kill them. She asked to be killed first and for the others to go free.

What this girl showed is truly what love is.

Yet some say LOVE is what takes place between two sexually lust filled people (heterosexual or homosexual) writhing on a bed  performing sexual acts on each other. What many find disgusting is presented as love.

Outside of marriage as God ordained, any relationship is wrong if it involves sex.

Some might argue that two lust filled people having sex is also love just a different kind of love than showed by the one who, out of what love really, is laid down their life, hoping it would somehow save others.

There is only one definition of love given in the Bible. It is the love of God.

Paul described it in 1 Corinthians 13. Love has nothing to do with sex. It is independent of sex as is faith and hope independent of sex. “Now abides faith hope and love…” They abide and the greatest of the three is love.

Sex does not abide and neither does lust.  Love abides (lives) and it remains for the sole reason that it is God.It is independent of all else. It stands alone. It needs nothing to exist. It exists forever as does God.

Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. (1 John 4:8)

Rapists rape and there is no love involved in their violent and vicious act. Yet their act involves sex. It is mostly about sex this is why the rapist rapes. To have sex with his victim. Love is nowhere present. Pedophiles molest children for sexual reasons not out of love. Love and sex and lust are not the same thing.

Yet many call lustful sexual acts whether with others of the opposite sex, or with others of their own sex, or with themselves as in masturbation, love.

Love is called what it is not. Lust is not love and love is not lust and never the twain shall be one.

Set me as a seal upon thine heart, as a seal upon thine arm: for love is  strong as death;  (Song of Solomon 8:6)

Love is as strong as death. They are of the same strength. Death cannot make love go away. This is why we still love our loved one even after they have died. And no doubt they still love us because death cannot sever or destroy what love is. If anyone lusts after dead people than they are indeed perverted. But it is never wrong to love and miss your departed loved one.

It is normal and natural.

Because so many think sex is love and love is sex the world is in the horrible condition it is in today. I don’t need to say what the  horrible things are; just listen to the news.

Love gives never takes. Love will never die, sex does. Love needs to be seen for what it is. It is a decision one makes. Love loves, it heals, gives and it creates.

There is a difference between the two and if one really knew the difference the world would be a better place.

Lust does none of these things love does.

Eros love is not love, it is lust, and philia love is love, it is not lust.

Sex alone is a dangerous thing, if it is not recognized for what it is, a gift God gave only to a husband and wife.

Steal someone else’s gift and it will only bring ruin to your life because stealing is a sin as says the Torah.

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